Become Unbound

Release people-pleasing and reclaim your power

I help thoughtful women stop people-pleasing, over-giving and second-guessing, so they can feel secure, self-trusting and free to love on their own terms.

Through my signature Pace, Power & Pleasure framework, rooted in psychosynthesis and body-based coaching, you’ll rewrite the patterns that keep you stuck and start building relationships that actually feel good.

Work with me if…

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  • You bite your tongue to keep the peace, then replay the whole conversation in your head.

  • You go along at their pace, even when your body’s saying,“slow down, I’m not ready yet.”

  • You feel like you’re “too much” just for wanting clarity, consistency or care.

  • You pretend to be confident at parties, dates or in bed, while inside you’re anxious and second-guessing.

  • You carry the emotional load, fixing things… until you’re exhausted.

Whether it’s dating, long-term love or ENM, the real issue is the same: you keep giving yourself away.

Our work together is about rewriting these patterns, so you stop abandoning yourself and start feeling secure, seen and unshakable in your relationships.

The Path Back to Yourself

What if you could stop second-guessing, stop overriding your body and finally feel free to love on your own terms?

That’s where my signature Pace, Power & Pleasure framework comes in. It’s helped women move from anxious spirals and people-pleasing into grounded confidence, self-trust and authentic intimacy.

Pace Power Pleasure relationship coaching framework for self-trust.

These three pillars of intimacy give you a compass back to yourself, so you stop abandoning your needs and start building relationships that feel safe, nourishing and real. This framework is the foundation for every client journey I guide, whether in dating, long-term partnership or exploring ethical non-monogamy (ENM).

“Before working with Nyla, I kept abandoning myself and constantly questioning if I was asking for “too much” in relationships. Having her there in the moment, helping me slow down, see a different perspective and actually find the right words has changed everything. I feel more grounded. I trust myself more than ever, and I can finally enjoy ENM without constantly second-guessing who I am.”

- Zoe, 1:1 Coaching Client

Meet Your Coach

Life coach for women in Oxford supporting self-trust, boundaries and authentic relationships. Nyla Khan, relationship & intimacy coach helping women stop people pleasing and find self-trust.

Hi! I’m Nyla Khan and I know how it feels to lose yourself in relationships.

I spent years people-pleasing, biting my tongue and overriding my body’s signals… always worried my needs were “too much.” On the outside I looked confident, but inside I was anxious and exhausted.

After my divorce, I decided I’d never abandon myself again. I rebuilt my life around self-trust and boundaries, learning through therapy, somatic work and real lived ENM experience how to finally move at my own pace.

Now I guide women to do the same through my signature Pace, Power & Pleasure framework, a practical and embodied approach to stop self-abandoning and start building relationships that feel secure and nourishing.

Work With Me

There’s no one-size-fits-all path to becoming unbound. Here are a few ways we can work together.

  • LIBERATED RELATING

    Move from people-pleasing and second-guessing to self-trust and emotionally safe relationships that actually meet your needs.

    Experience a Deep 1:1 Transformation in just 10 Weeks. Using my Pace, Power & Pleasure framework, you’ll learn to honour your rhythm, speak your needs without guilt and build relationships that feel secure, nourishing and real.

    Also available as a dedicated ENM Edition, tailored to lifestyle and poly contexts.
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    “Before this work, I was doubting myself all the time. Now I know exactly where my boundaries are, how to hold them and I can communicate them without spiralling. It’s been a game changer for my ENM journey.” - Alex

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  • THE UNMASKING SESSIONS

    A reset for women who want a short, sharp breakthrough.

    In just two sessions you’ll find the words for what you’ve been holding back, feel lighter and clearer in your choices, and reconnect to your power.

    Includes real-time, in-the-moment coaching support through WhatsApp so you’re not left to figure it out alone.
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    “I didn’t expect such a shift in just two weeks. I finally had the words for conversations I’d been avoiding for months.” - Lucy

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  • MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP

    Stay anchored in your self-trust with steady support at a gentler pace.

    I offer a monthly session for graduates of my programmes, or women who want a consistent touchpoint each month. Includes light-touch WhatsApp support alongside your session.
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    I left feeling lighter, clearer, and more in control. These sessions helped me see it, name it and actually choose differently.” - Amy

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Coming Soon: Self-Paced Online Course

Not ready to dive into 1:1 coaching yet? Start here.

This short, practical course gives you a first taste of my Pace, Power & Pleasure framework. It’s the same tool that has helped women stop people-pleasing, build self-trust and feel more secure in love and intimacy.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Catch yourself before old patterns (like people-pleasing or overthinking) take over

  • Tune into your body’s cues so you can set boundaries and trust your needs

  • Apply Pace, Power & Pleasure as a simple map to reset and choose differently in relationships

Designed to give you real shifts right away, while showing you what’s possible when you go deeper into 1:1 coaching.

Online Pace Power Pleasure course for building self-trust.

What Others Say About Working With Me

  • "Before this work, I was doubting myself all the time. Now I know exactly where my boundaries are, how to hold them and I can communicate them without spiralling. It’s been a game changer for my ENM journey."

    — Alex

  • "I’ve realised how much of my energy was spent managing other people’s comfort. These sessions with Nyla helped me see it, name it and actually choose differently. I left feeling lighter, clearer and more in control."

    — Amy

  • “Before working with Nyla, I kept abandoning myself and wondering if I was asking for too much. Having her there in the moment, helping me slow down and actually find the words has changed everything. I feel more grounded, I trust myself more than ever, and I can finally enjoy ENM without constantly second-guessing who I am.”

    - Zoe

  • "I didn’t just feel more confident, I felt safe enough to enjoy ENM on my own terms."

    — Lucy

  • “Nyla supported me to make deep, lasting changes. Her rare mix of compassion and sharp focus helped me see what I couldn’t on my own and cut through what wasn’t working, while holding me in the vision of my highest self.”

    — Keenan

  • “Nyla created a calm, focused space where I could reflect, get clear and take meaningful steps forward. Her kindness and directness helped me see what needed to change, and how to make it happen.”

    -JJ

  • “Working with Nyla helped me see the patterns running my life—and shift them. Her mix of deep listening and clear guidance gave me the courage to make changes that have impacted everything, from my relationships to my work.”

    - Christina

  • “Nyla helped me reconnect with what matters most. I see my life and relationships differently now, and I feel far more intentional about the path I’m creating.”

    — Aysha

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Ready to Begin?

You don’t have to keep biting your tongue, second-guessing every word, or wondering if your needs are “too much.”
This is where self-trust begins.

A brief call to explore whether this work is the right fit for you.